Actual patients describe the benefits of family support as they live with colon disease.
My wife and I are very close as it is, but I would say this experience has brought us a lot closer. Yes.
My husband knew, of course, that there was something not right. And he was a great source of support.
My strength came from my family and my faith. I was fortunate to have my family and my parents there in town when I was diagnosed and they’re a strong religious, Catholic family.
My wife is very strong and we spend a lot of time doing research together, and talking about everything together. But I know internally she was really devastated and very worried.
The very difficult part on the whole experience was my husband’s family because my husband’s mother passed when he was eleven … of breast cancer. So my husband was very concerned that he was going to lose his wife, too. And then my father-in-law, he was very nervous. But it worked out well. But I had to support them, “Oh, I’m going to be fine. It’s going to be fine; don’t worry about it. Let’s have the surgery; it’ll be over.” But that’s what they kept telling him about his mom, too, so he was very, very worried.
You know, like our family, we’re all naturally … all concerned. And it seems like we’ve had so much of it different all the time. And, you know, we had a big family. Now we’re down to just four of us … there’s just three boys and one sister.
A lot of support from my unit at the time. While I was in the hospital, my squadron commander’s … his wife … the wives of that group would make dinner for my family every night. And I was in the hospital for a good ten days.
I’ve learned that to rely on my wife more. I was a pretty macho guy to begin with. So I think I’ve learned a great deal through this experience.
When we were amongst the racing fans, well, a lot of them guys like to kid me about it. And I took it more as a fun thing than as somebody picking on you, so to speak.
During the time of the ileostomy, I don’t know what I would’ve done without my wife because she would help me. She actually helped me get through a lot of the difficult stages of having that.
After my surgery I was told that I probably wouldn’t be able to get pregnant again because scar tissue would form and it would be difficult to either conceive or even deliver.
She was like my own private nurse in terms of helping me take care of all of that. It would not have been easy to do by myself.
He’s eight now. So it was about four years after my surgery, we found out that we were having our fourth child. Nick is my blessing.
If you don’t have that support and it’s not all the time everybody will say, “Well, how you feeling? How you doing?” You know they would ask you questions like that there, but they would encourage you. “You know, you look pretty good today. You’re a little bit more active than you have been,” which makes you feel maybe, “I’m starting to come around like I should.” And I think that that was a real, real positive.